Guys can be found everywhere but when you are particular about where to find a good guy, the quest becomes a hard one. Since you cannot judge a book by its cover, it is often difficult to tell a good guy from a bad one mile away.
It could take a while to spot a good man and sometimes it could be in seconds. The real thing is to be able to notice a good guy when you actually see one.
Oh! and speaking of “good”, what is your definition of a good guy? People have different opinions when it comes to what and who they label ‘good’. Sometimes, an opinion of a guy is all in the mind, desires, looks, and appeal. My sister Dora once told me that her ideal man must be rich and hardworking. See, that’s her idea of a good guy which is contrary to man. I always believe that being rich and hardworking is not enough to make a guy look good, his behavior is of great importance. No matter how good a guy is, he will always seem bad to me if he is egocentric.
So the first question is not about “where” but “who”. Who is a nice guy? Your idea of a nice guy determines where you should be looking after all, never judge a book by its cover. But for the purpose of this article, we will focus on the “where”. Below are a few suggestions of places to find a good guy.
Where can I Find a Good Guy?
Contrary to general opinion, good guys can be found in the bar as well as bad ones. People sometimes go to bars to mingle and lay off the day’s stress. The bar could be a meeting point for friends and colleagues or family members.
If you are intentional about spotting a good guy at the bar then you should equally turn on your notification button. Sit at the bar if you’re able. The bar is obviously the point of focus in the room, but more importantly, it’s much more approachable than an individual table. Even the boldest of men will pause before approaching a woman seated at a table—you may be perceived as waiting for your date. A gentleman would never presume to sit in an open chair at a lady’s table. And if you want to invite a man to approach you? Open up your posture a little bit to welcome a conversation.When you feel it would be difficult to make a pick from the men around, try the intel from the bartenders. The bartenders are a great tool in your search for a good guy as they see pretty much everything. They can help you complete the puzzle.
Although life on social media can be somewhat fake and deceptive, some are real. You can take your time to study their profile and posts and engage him in a chat to get to know them better.
Connect with him and his network. Sometimes, the kind of friends he keeps has a way of speaking about his personality.
The church could be a place for meeting a good guy but that doesn’t mean that all the guys in the church are good. In my opinion, the church is one of the difficult places to spot a genuinely good guy as they all rub off as good.
Everyone in the church tends to paint a good picture of themselves to match the Christian standard even though they have hideous skeletons in their closet.
So just as all that glitters is not gold, ensure you take your time to study behaviors critically before making a choice. I have seen couples playing the perfect home in the church while their marriage is a war zone at home. Don’t be fooled by the Halleluyah shouts and the gospel quotations, they could be lip service.
Wedding ceremonies are a great place to find the good guys. Support is one of the attributes of a good guy so if he makes out time to attend his friend/colleague’s wedding then chances are that he is good.
These suggestions are certainly my opinion of places a good guy can be found. Trust me, they could be found in the most unlikely places but if you are thinking of places to begin your search then you can explore my options.