Whether the chat is online or offline, it is important to carefully choose words when starting conversations with girls as you may never get the opportunity to make another fresh impression. And even if your poor word choice in the first chat can be redeemed, then your terrible manner of conversation will end your communication once and for all.
This article is written as a guide to correct the usual mistakes that can throw a girl off balance and make her not want to further the chat.
How to Start a Chat With a Girl
- Avoid asking too many questions
It is true that asking questions will help you learn more about your new friend but being too inquisitive can also scare her off. If you begin by prying into her personal life, she won’t be able to feel comfortable with you and will leave. This approach is wrong both in online and offline dating. Getting to know her is a gradual approach and she should be allowed to fill you in on the details she wants to let you in on.
- Too much texting
No matter how you want to call or text her, do not make it too often so that you will not be a bother. Another problem with texting is when you text for too long, without asking her to go on a date. Remember, the main goal of online dating is to have a date in the real world. If you both are so interested in each other, then instead of texting, you should go on a real date.
- Be Unique
Though it is very hard to be unique, you can at least try. Try to be unpredictable and original as most girls do not like predictable people, especially in dating. You should be very cunning and resourceful when choosing words when starting with a chat. The way your chats go can make you rub off as boring. Look for a topic of conversation that is connected with the present. That way, she will always look forward to your chats. - Compliments
Compliments can be a very powerful tool to make a girl feel happier and more confident with you. On the other hand, too many compliments will only make a girl feel uncomfortable. In online dating, you will easily notice that your compliments receive very simple answers like, “Okay,” “Thank you,” “I appreciate it,” and so on. - Comment on what surrounds you
Sometimes the best way to start a conversation with someone is to comment on something around you that caught her attention. This one of the ways to impress a girl with your knowledge or interest in something. This way you can start a casual conversation and smoothly move on to common topics. Note that, this tactic will only work in offline dating. - Show a sense of humor The best way to start chat with a girl is via the help of humor. Squeezing a smile out of her is like giving her a small dose of a love potion. Remember, women like men who can make them laugh. A good joke can help even in the worst situation. Humor sets a benevolent mood and shows that you are a person with whom she won’t be bored.
- Be honest
This approach is for those who are not afraid to be straightforward. Admittedly, it works pretty well at times. A man who does not beat around the bush but demonstrates self-confidence and makes it clear that he controls the situation often affects women endearingly. Most likely, she will take your self-confidence as a sign that she should talk with you.
